"It lies not in our power to love or hate,
For will in us is overruled by fate.
When two are stripped, long ere the course begin,
We wish that one should love, the other win"
--- Christopher Marlowe
Not sure whether the above is the flair of a poet or reality! Recently, I have personally known people who love the idea of falling in 'love'. Let me admit that I have been there once - and I am sure I have company. After all, Maslov's hierarchy of needs puts the need for "love and association" just above the basic human needs.
I guess, when people are stressed - mentally or physically... or when are away from family and close friends due to whatever reason - there exists an emotional void in their lives. In such situations it might be easy to imagine that we are falling in love with the only person who is there (who in normal circumstances, would be just another person). Small gestures magnify and start to mean a lot - they provide emotional comfort when no one is close by. However, the need for this otherwise not-so-special person is gone when we move into the better days of our lives. The same person becomes redundant and suddenly the love is lost! What happens on the other end however, is huge! Unfortunately, I have been there as well!
The true love that I have expereinced (from the people who are close to me) makes me realise that love is invariant... its not dependant on good times or bad. Nor is it conditional. It transcends our entire lives - rejoicing with us when the times are good and comforting when the going gets tough.
For will in us is overruled by fate.
When two are stripped, long ere the course begin,
We wish that one should love, the other win"
--- Christopher Marlowe
Not sure whether the above is the flair of a poet or reality! Recently, I have personally known people who love the idea of falling in 'love'. Let me admit that I have been there once - and I am sure I have company. After all, Maslov's hierarchy of needs puts the need for "love and association" just above the basic human needs.
I guess, when people are stressed - mentally or physically... or when are away from family and close friends due to whatever reason - there exists an emotional void in their lives. In such situations it might be easy to imagine that we are falling in love with the only person who is there (who in normal circumstances, would be just another person). Small gestures magnify and start to mean a lot - they provide emotional comfort when no one is close by. However, the need for this otherwise not-so-special person is gone when we move into the better days of our lives. The same person becomes redundant and suddenly the love is lost! What happens on the other end however, is huge! Unfortunately, I have been there as well!
The true love that I have expereinced (from the people who are close to me) makes me realise that love is invariant... its not dependant on good times or bad. Nor is it conditional. It transcends our entire lives - rejoicing with us when the times are good and comforting when the going gets tough.
As an afterthought - why am I so emotional? It makes me so very vulnerable! I wish I improve on this aspect in the future!
1 comment:
hi
I do agree that we start attaching lot of importance to that on person in our life (when we are away from home and our close onces)but if it's not love and just an emotional need then it doesnt take much time to realize that..thats what i can say out of my experience with life. Love is something thats ever lasting and endless (i beleive).
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