It is easy to lie. Probably the easiest thing to do. Sometimes I wonder, why is all the 'bad' stuff so easy to pick up? Smoke n' drugs n' drinking, bluffing, cheating, pretension... and most of all - to speak out a lie! It just flows out and saves the day! Fear - happens to be the driver. Fear of losing face, fear of being ashamed, fear of pulic apathy - there can be any number of fears influencing us to take the easy path - that of lying.
And its difficult to speak out the truth. Often-times, its so difficult to speak the truth rather than lie, that we lie 'n' times to cover-up.
The difference is in what follows. With a lie, guilt follows... which leads to remorse because of the realisation that we did not do a good thing; realisation that we were dishonest and betrayed trust. - and sometimes, this guilt stays for a long long time!
With truth - happiness invariably follows, irrespective of what happens in the short-term. What follows is courage with which you can face anyone and look him/her in the eye, despite being the one to pick up the blame. Have you ever experienced that strength? Its so empowering that we can go and achieve seemingly impossible things on the rebound! Truth also empowers relationships... each and everytime we speak the truth the strength of a relation moves a notch up.
I really love the poem: "Where the mind is without fear" by Tagore - so simple, yet most profound!
"
Where the mind is without fear and the head is held high
Where the mind is without fear and the head is held high
Where knowledge is free
Where the world has not been broken up into fragments
By narrow domestic walls
Where words come out from the depth of truth
Where tireless striving stretches its arms towards perfection
Where the clear stream of reason has not lost its way
Into the dreary desert sand of dead habit
Where the mind is led forward by thee
Into ever-widening thought and action
Into that heaven of freedom, my Father, let my country awake"
6 comments:
For once I understood what you meant exactly, coz I myself have been a helluva liar..I have lied a lot in my life!! And I know exactly what kind of 'guilt' you are talking about.
so probably the best idea is to lie on small things. the advantages are as follows:
1) the guilt (if at all) will not be big-enough-to-haunt-u-at-nite
2) even if you get caught you can use i-was-joking excuse... since its a small lie nobody will mind ...
for eg "yeah sure i have wathced that movie, i specially love that song"
its not advisable to lie on big things, as "where did you sleep last nite" ..
these words in no way indicate what my policies are...
anyways...
adios Ruhela.. what you been up to?
JKC
Is getting into drugs bad ?
Is the desire to live good and to die bad ?
How can we be so sure about that , why taking drugs when you are ill to make you feel better ( physically ) good and accepted by the society...and why taking herion or brown sugar or morphine( the same drug you use to amputate ) when taken to give you mental pleasure or the zone of freedom bad not acceptable by the society...
probably thats the answer ..truth , no drugs , goodie goodie stuffs are the elements that makes you the slave of the society ... something thats beneficial for us and everyone ...hmmm or is it ?
We do not do all the "goodie" stuff to please the society. Many-a-times, its lies which makes people around us happier! Ex., I lie to my Mom that I never drink and she is happy, even though its a lie!... but you know what? I feel bad every time I make this claim.
I know the simple fact: speaking the truth has always made me feel good and lies have always made me not-so-happy.... irrespective of how "society" reacted to it!
You lied cause I suppose your society wouldnt accept a person drinking , had you been in some western nation I dont think so it would have been a problem.
Lets say you get happiness x when you speak the truth and y when you know that people around you are happy. You ll choose a path which tends to maximize your happiness , so if truth and happiness of others go hand in hand you ll obviously speak the truth.I think you got my point , in a society a healthy person ( according to the society) will always have y greater than x. You become the slave just because of this equation I guess
ok.
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